I confronted my daughter’s boyfriend – but I was really confronting myself, via The Guardian Aust.

Hi all,


I loved this read and maybe you will find something in it also?

In my opinion, we men have a long way to travel to find gender balance and restore and reset the world that we have collectively steered towards catastrophe.

This read alludes to that journey and why it is so important to get on that track as soon as each of us can.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/oct/19/i-confronted-my-daughters-boyfriend-but-i-was-really-confronting-myself?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other

Please have a read if you have a few minutes.

Merry Christmas all,

AES

Behind Closed Doors – via 3CR Melbourne.

Hi all,

I have been interested in the subject and practice of sex work for some time now and was struggling a little with where I sat on it prior to reading about the podcast linked below and deciding to listen to it.

I have used sex workers in the past but done so without any thought whatsover for their lot in life. And I have written posts about sex work and prostitution in the past here, here and here all of which were part of the journey to this time and place.  Note that these links are from my oldest thoughts to the newest thoughts and there are a few others in the mix if you are dedicated also.

Have I evolved? That is what I would like to look at briefly in this post.

To add a little more context, I think things really started to change for me when I tried taxi driving for a while.

Taking boozed up clients to the various brothels around town was quite the experience. Sometimes I was just like the sex workers and in it just for the cash, never thinking another thing about it but sometimes I had an absolute pig in the car and damn I felt for the woman whom would have him in her life for a short period of time.

But anyway, that was the past. Right now I am listening to a podcast on 3CR with Victorian Senator Fiona Patten discussing sex work and the potential decriminalisation of sex work in the State of Victoria.

And honestly, she is making sense and I feel like I am finally finding some peace with this subject.

Please have a listen to the pod and I hope you get something out of it.

It’s been a very long journey for me to get to this point but I get that we need to evolve on this subject and that sex can be a job that anyone can do.

We really must get to a better place on this subject. There is far too much stigma and far to much regulation and darkness surrounding this subject.

So I recommend that we collectively open the bloody curtains and let some light in so we can disenfect the language and thinking around the oldest profession in the world for once and for all.

Anyway, I am going to keep reading anything worthwhile that I can get my hands on around this fascinating subject and will publish something further in due course that adds detail to this new found direction for me on this subject.

Cheers

AES

Mr Mister – Control

“6 Kinks I Didn’t Think I’d Like” via Medium.

Hi all,

Clicked on this link for shitz ‘n gigs this morning and I ended up really liking the article.
I liked that Caitlin explained the kinks and how they made her feel and I loved the positivity of the article.

And the bonus was that I got to understand another person’s perspective in regards to these acts.

“6 Kinks I Didn’t Think I’d Like” by Caitlin Jill Anders https://link.medium.com/8MIMOCS25ab

All in all it was another great Medium read.
Please click on the link if you are intrigued but know that you will need a subscription to do so.

I cant speak highly enough of the diversity of opinions on the site.  It’s a great way to engage with various topics at your own pace and way better than a newspaper IMHO.

Anyway, please enjoy.

AES

The sole function of the clitoris is female orgasm. Is that why it’s ignored by medical science? via The Guardian Australia.

Hi all,

I apologise in advance for the blue language coming your way throughout this post, but…
Faaaark me!

My understanding of the elephant in the room, that being the patriarchal control of female bodies just took jump forward at light speed.

Please read and digest this statement as an entree for your mind fuck main course coming later on;
The first comprehensive anatomical study of the clitoris was led by O’Connell and published in 1998“.

in 1998!

What the fucking fuck! 

I would like to think of myself as better read than the average man on sex and have definitely read little bits over the years alluding to the fact that men have been controlling women’s bodies and thus their sexuality for a long time over the past 10 or more years, but I had no idea about this truth.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/nov/01/the-sole-function-of-the-clitoris-is-female-orgasm-is-that-why-its-ignored-by-medical-science

1998! 
WTF!

Penises, and ball-sack’s have been in art and medicine for bloody eons.

I am sitting here a tad flabbergasted at the moment.

So, if you ever wondered about and thought on men & women as I am want to do (probs way too much), I very much hope this joins a dot or three for you like it has done for me.

The summary for mine is that all men really need to take long hard look.

1998…fuck me. THAT IS INSANE.

BTW…thanks to the Guardian for this wonderful article.

AES

“I’m Finally Super Horny…& Men Are Stressed.” via Medium.

Hi all,

I found this on Medium this morning as written by Lisa Martens.

It’s both a great read and one chock full of “lolz”.  But I think there’s also a lesson in the laughs for those that are paying attention.

“I’m Finally Super Horny…& Men Are Stressed.” by Lisa Martens https://link.medium.com/ZKaM3iHcvab

For me it highlights the change that is bearing down on us like a freight train, but I will have more to say on this soon.

As always, a quick disclaimer.  I have my own Medium subscription to read these as will you.
It’s a great site that you will get so much out of for so little, with this link above being just one example of the great writing available.

Stay safe in these crazy times,
AES

“The Magic of Audio Porn” via Medium.

Hi all,

I have written about this subject previously and still support it highly.

For when it comes to the erotic, diversity must rule in my very humble opinion.

Lillian nails it with this article, which, yes, is another Medium article that I am riding coat-tail’s on, but hey, if it’s good writing or a subject I place value upon, it should be up in lights I think.

“The Magic of Audio Porn” by Lillian Grover. https://link.medium.com/EE4GXgXRN8

Anyhoo, as always I hope you get something from this post remembering that Medium is a paid site unlike my little blog here.

Which I do, because I continue to be amazed by human sexuality and all its flawed beauty.

Regards
AES

My life in sex: the ethical non-monogamist

Hi all,

I found this in Guardian Australia this morning and whilst short & sweet, highlights for me why I am a fan of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory.

My life in sex: the ethical non-monogamist https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/sep/11/my-life-in-sex-the-ethical-non-monogamist?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_WordPress

Its a no-brainer really and whilst it seems hard on the surface, if the initial communication rules are established and abided by then I think its fair to say the pay-off’s, not unlike capital interest, are better for all parties.

I hope this becomes a reality for more people because it clearly fits with a society that values both genders equally for their contribution.

Regards
AES

Howard Jones – All I Want

“We Are NOT Monogamous by Nature” via Medium.

Hi all,

True dat.

At the link below Claire Divino has written a piece a lot of you may well identify with and relate to as I did.

I have been trying to put paragraphs together like this for years now but in the finest traditions of writing, the words only come when they want to.

“We Are NOT Monogamous by Nature” by Claire Divino https://link.medium.com/4PKz5s2oz9

From my point of view, this is a great lead into a post that I have written which I will drop IDC.

But if reading this whets your whistle, please head over to Medium and soak a while in this and so many other posts of beauty written by people who, like I do, care about the big picture that encompasses our humanity.

Remember though, Medium is a paid site so you will need a sub if you want to indulge regularly like I do.

Regards
AES

p.s. Just one fix at a time though please!

‘Do you get jealous?’: the six questions I always get asked about being polyamorous.

Hi all,

A quick and easy to read article about Paul Dalgarno’s new book on polyamory.

If you are interested in polyamory, this article will be a good read and introduction to a very worthwhile way of leading a life.

I havent read his book but will in due course (and review it) as there is always more to learn and ruminate on when it comes to human relationships.

True, it isnt for everyone, but I feel that in certain individuals it was meant to be.

Check out Paul’s article here;

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/sep/02/do-you-get-jealous-the-six-questions-i-always-get-asked-about-being-polyamorous

And if you want to read more, there are a few books that I have read and reviewed on this blog which will certainly enlighten and educate you further depending on how far down the rabbit hole you want to go.

Cheers
AES

“Why Erotica Will Free Your Mind”

Hi all,

Am a bit off my game of late.  COVID-19 has it well and truly engaged it in self-preservation mode.

Came across this tonight though and dug it.
It’s a well written piece on the beauty that is the written word in the erotic form.

I am all for expanding ones mind when it comes to our sexual selves.
And I clearly am a fan of all the wonderful women on Medium who are filling this space with their beautiful writing on all manner of subjects inside the space that is our human sexuality.

So please, click the link and have a read.  If you dig this as I did please come back and comment.

Note: Medium is a paid site and I have my own subscription to read these stories.

“Why Erotica Will Free Your Mind” by Amber Cezanne https://link.medium.com/EdAYFIdR98

Cheers
AES

“The Power of Scent & Smell During Sex” via Medium.

Hi all,

Once again the talented writers on Medium have come through for me.

This article made me think (and is the main reason I keep visiting Medium),  and I cant wait until I can find a willing partner to explore this largely ignored side of our sexuality with.

“The Power of Scent & Smell During Sex” by Joe Duncan https://link.medium.com/FPi1HXhK77

Reading this, I also remember reading something a while ago, maybe it was in Medium or elsewhere that discussed blindfolds during sex such that you both have to take your time and work together during your naked dance, as it should be.

I think it would awesome to grab a nice room with someone who was interested in exploring the senses, get naked, put on comfortable blindfolds and let touch, taste and smell take over completely.

But back to reality now laddie!

AES

“What Makes a Woman Great in Bed?”

Hi all,

This article popped up on my Medium feed today and I am glad it did.

“What Makes a Woman Great in Bed?” by Kim Petersen https://link.medium.com/81FFRttR17

Kim has written a great article here.

What did I like about it you may be asking?

I liked that she spoke truths about women which are some that when added with other concerns can over floweth thine relationship cup.

And dont get me wrong I clearly get that women are only half of the equation.  Men certainly contribute their own special blend of shite that also adds fuel to the fires that breakout in relationships, some of which can be extinguished, and other’s not.


Please have a look noting that Medium is a paid subscription.

Thus you will need to contribute to read articles like this and many others that I have found brilliant.

Cheers
AES

“The Intern”, via Medium.

Hi all,

Another great Medium post to on-share. Adriana M has given those who click through on this link, some beautiful & sexy female written erotica.

As I have said few times now, the women on Medium are dishing it up hot & spicy and they are all fine, fine reads.

“The Intern” by Adriana M https://link.medium.com/YP7Yu3lZK7

Please do yourself a favour and click this concise and well written piece that I hope will see you grooving your way into that beautiful, private place of arousal a few paragraphs in.

Please note: Medium is a paid site.  I have a subsription which enables me to share these with you and you will need one too to access the work.  I highly recommend spending a few bucks on it.

Yours in sweet, sweet heat.
AES

https://youtu.be/-ZtQlbhPfAw

“Rape Me Between Eleven and Midnight”

Ahhh…ok.

I am not sure what to think of this one?

Oddly I kept reading it even though I was a little repulsed and as I write this I am still a little lost for words.

That is why I am going to exit stage left at this point in proceedings and leave you to make your own minds up.

“Rape Me Between Eleven and Midnight” by Amelia Devereaux https://link.medium.com/nmYbJ4bin7

Enjoy now,
AES

Nirvana, Rape Me, Live