SSM got up…finally.
The conservatives in the LNP coalition, a few Catholic arch bishop’s, dear Lyle Shelton with his merry bunch of Christians and last but not least that wonderful NOT Murdoch rag in The Australian (that speaks for a third of us at best…go figure?), gave the NO case a good crack but their argument was piss-poor and in the end weight of numbers (and sense) spoke volumes.
#metoo – men got to feel the rage of numerous years of power misuse across a lot of professions.
Unfortunately, in the finest traditions of the shhh….don’t talk about sex, brain imprint that functions with aplomb in the overwhelming majority of us, we won’t get anywhere fast with on sexual harassment in Australian society anytime soon.
I expect 2018 to be just as bad if not worse.
Polyamory lost its momentum in Victoria with PolyVIC shutting down. Sad that it never got the support it deserves but we are pretty well institutionalised here in Australia through 200+ years of marriage, affairs & divorce and unfortunately are happy to accept the good times, bad times and other collateral damage as the norm.
I read another magnificent book called ” What Love Is, And What It Could Be” by Carrie Jenkins. A must read if the subject of human relationships and sexuality intrigues you as it does me.
And lastly, and to end on a happy note, I am pulling my weight in the gender wars by employing a 50/50 gender split so big-up’s to moi!
Happy New Year y’all.
This is a good step forward for human sexuality. Please read and discuss widely in the hope that via weight of numbers, those who seek to profit from “yet another” purported disease in the long line of supposed human frailties get ran out of town for good.
I am updating this post as I have just finished the Andrew Ridgeley book about the early years through to Wham’ s “The Final”. A great read that I highly recommend.
But onto the man who gave us so much. George Michael was an amazing human being full stop.
He did more for our collective human sexuality in his short life than 20,000 will do in theirs.
I really got into him with his album Older. I just was right for me at that time. I still love that album to this very day.
Wherever you exist now George, thanks so much for being yourself and pushing back against the few blinkered souls who could not help but try and drag you down.
And thanks for so much great music from Wham to Symphonica.
@kittystryker: Bree Olson says some harsh truths about what it’s like leaving the porn industry for a civilian job http://bit.ly/1UNeCiX via @dailydot
Colateral damage from an industry that seeks firstly to exploit the male sex drive for profit as their modus operandi.
And secondly in doing so exploits women and spews them out as excess to requirements detritus.
Bree is just one of the many who have either willingly left or as per my previous paragraph were ejected for any number of reasons.
How did conservatism engulf human sexuality?
It seems as though the time of free-love was as close as we have ever got to the deregulation of sex.
Tis yet another thing to ponder in this crazy life of which I have but a few answers…at best.
I reckon PJ would have some interesting thoughts on this possibly…
Frankly, still all over the shop but I have some clarity on the points below.
1. Marriage (traditional) should not be the default relationship proposition in 2016 or ever again.
2. We need action on equality. It’s not good enough to take the position that it will happen in its own good time. Women are being killed every week (60 so far) and kids are growing up to further create problems for society at large as the end result of this and other carnage.
3. We need more conversation regards sex. Currently men barely talk about it and less so between women & men unless there is mutual interest. No one should be forced into having sex but something has to give in our overly conservative society.
4. Same-Sex marriage must happen. The sooner the better.
5. And I would love to see the end of prostitution. Its always been the stopgap measure for a society that is unwilling to confront and discuss it’s sexual side and frankly it’s a discussion we need to have if we are ever to really evolve.
And that will about do me for tonight. I intend to keep typing blogs in the short term as interesting topics come to hand in the hope that mine and maybe one or two of the subjects in your conversational headspace are bolstered by what I write & link.
I present, the lovely Meshell Ndegecello.
Wow…this is just what I needed right now. Thank you karma.
I have been struggling of late as the more astute of you have possibly read between the lines.
This book has renewed my hope and has bought me back to the day I read The Ethical Slut and considered it the most sensible thing I had read on relationships in 38 years on the planet.
If there is one thing this book has confirmed for me, is that yes, I am a Polyamorous person who values trust, respect, compassion and isn’t afraid of disgussing needs.
Whyou do I love poly? Because I love people who value community and who can see that our current relationship default was certainly not meant for everyone although it is definitely marketed that way.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who has walked the roads and seen the carnage of broken relationships that litter it.
There is a better way for those who cherish joy and happiness. It won’t be easy but life was never meant to be.
Live and love like there’s no tomorrow.
Tighten up this word in your vocabulary via the TED talk above. The lady speaks the truth as far as I am concerned.
This just strengthens my resolve on what I feel should be a fact of life, “that human relationships were never meant to be happy ever after”. It’s always been about the luck of the draw and what each other is willing to put in.
Monogamish, Polyamorous & same-sex relationships are here to stay folks and that dear reader can only be good for humanity.
Love like there be no tomorrow
The people who volunteer to spend time with paedophiles http://ab.co/2aRkY04 – via @abcnews
Yes, you read correctly.
I fully support organisation’s like this who seek to build bridges between those who yes, have done wrong.
They are in my opinion just another grouping of people whom are marginalised and shut out by those in society who choose not to open their blinkers and see these people through a two lenses vice one.
Please have a read and try to “walk a mile in their shoes” so you are better armed the next time this subject comes up in conversation.
Ever since the poly group folded, I have pushed my posts into areas that I much rather would have posted after rigorous discussion but them’s the breaks in a country that is largely sexually conservative and which is still I contend, uncomfortable talking about sex in a mature manner.
Anyway, found this via @ChrisRyanPhD: Sex worker’s view of marriage
Greatest respect for this man and his thought process. Sex At Dawn by Cacilda & Chris is a great read. Highly recommended.
I agree mostly with the article and I genuinely wonder what is the true percentage of marriages that wallow in this state?
Surely one can present the evidence that is the above, in that prostitution is still very profitable and secondly, one should look at the gender ratios (and profit margins) of dating sites which are strongly populated with men vice women.
I have said a few times now I strongly feel that marriage has its place for some, but certainly not all.
Furthermore I strongly believe it is high time we all took our collective heads out of the sand and acknowledged some truths that so many are so willing to discuss.
1. That marriage is an archaic and unnecessary human requirement in a world that has moved on from the original intent of marriage.
2. That humans need companionship mostly and this can be met via friendships rather than marriage.
3. And if we are ever to see some genuine sexual balance between genders in this world, – which I feel is this articles root cause, we need less marriages and more friendships with benefits and/or polyamorous arrangements for those with enough sense & compassion to negotiate poly.
Anyway, please have a read of the article and if you are game, post a comment.
Love this song…
@ChrisRyanPhD: Iceland: A culture moving beyond marriage @CNNTravel http://cnn.it/21IPytI
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Now this is sensible. Everyone gets to choose and negotiate what they want at that point in their life.
In Australia however, the happy ever after principle as instilled via our parents and popular culture still exists as the norm and when combined with bugger all relationship/sexual communication leads largely to our large divorce rate.
We are slowly changing so I will hang onto that thread of hope that we will legislate same-sex marriage in due course opening the gate to the many possibilities beyond.
Till then peeps,
L O V E.
What’s in a name?
You call it “emotional non-monogamy”, I call it “polyamory”…what’evs!
Worth a read anyway as we are all different and no-one should be boxed into a particular belief, but in saying that I guess there are many who like to belong to something and will defend it with or without their blinkers at 90 degrees.
It’s all very odd but I genuinely hope we can move on in this country, from the belief and associated bigotry that marriage is the only option for two people who have a connection and desire to build upon it.
Love like there’s no tomorrow.
Marriage Equality. A subject that has crossed into the political plaything arena…unfortunately!
I didn’t read this when it was originally proposed, but then I am no fan of the PUP (Palmer United Party).
It’s an interesting article on an interesting subject that might actually get an answer now that T.A. (Tony Abbott) and his right wing views are largely out of the way.
I certainly hope this country can find a solution to marriage equality and cross one issue of the long “list of ignorance”, we have yet to open the blinkers on, debate accordingly and legislate.
I will keep you updated as we go along.
Check out this amazing TEDTalk:
Esther Perel: Rethinking infidelity … a talk for anyone who has ever loved
Lots of interesting thought-juice in this talk to fill the squishy parts of your brain to overflowing 🙂
She is a very interesting lady and I highly recommend that you strap on the headphones, lay back in that comfy chair and get that brain moving.
Till next time peeps,
Love hard but sensibly…Marcel Proust style!
“If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love. ”
Michel De Montaigne
How very true.
Couldn’t agree more.
I respect marriage but it isn’t the be all and end all – for all – as its been marketed over the years.
This is where polyamory will fill a void in time I hope.
Australian’s need better information and that is why I think we will see a political party formed on this issue sooner or later.
Maybe the Sex Party will make it a core issue in time too but it’s going to need risks taken to get over the brick wall largely built by those as described in the article who maintain the mindset of “a vow is a vow” etc, that currently is an inhibitor to knowledge.
Anyway tis all very interesting.
Love hard peeps