Another great Medium writer killing it.
And yes, I understand in assuming you can make an ass of yourself but I am going out on a limb with this (gut-feel style) to say I strongly feel that this issue is brushed under the carpet way to much.
A wonderful Australian woman by the name of Grace Tame has done her level best over the past 3+ years to drag this subject out into the sunlight but in the finest traditions of “the patriarchy rules – ok!”, very little has changed. She is playing the long game though and I know she will looked back on as one of the big movers & shakers in regards to many layers of our sexual gumbo that very much need to be made edible in order to obtain genuine gender balance.
You can read more about Grace and her struggle here.
Another young Australian woman who is really impressing me in this space is Chanel Contos. Chanel is also kicking against the pricks on consent and making some ground especially in the young adult space, which is the only sensible place to start the conversation IMHO.
Take note of these two names as they in concert with many others will help Australia lead the pack in these areas of human sexuality.
Anyhoo, here’s Lisa’s post at the link below. Please click through if this subject interests you. I will contend that you won’t be disappointed. She writes very well and is one of many writers on Medium that I really enjoy.
And I hope you, like I have, see the many layers of genius present within Medium. It really is a fantastic mish-mash of amazing writing on just about any subject you can think of.
Jeff Buckley – Kick Out The Jams (Live)
A quickie today. Really enjoyed this short read from Emme about fucking your ex.
Why? Because of how she weaves power into the story, the imbalances thereof and how important it is to understand where power resides in your relationship.
It matters. It really does.
Anyhoo, as I always try to mention when reposting someone else’s work, Medium is a subscription reader chock full of just about any rabbit hole you feel inclined to drop down for a look.
I have been a subscriber for years and if they keep the same or a similar formula looking after their writers, I will keep renewing
And on Medium you will find Emme and so many others to scratch your itch I can recommend it highly enough.
Anyway, I hope you click through, because this one is a good’n.
Meshell Ndeocello – Boyfriend
A nice read about the benefits of conversation and listening, in this case within one of the first “men’s groups”.
As David mentions in the article, groups like these are much more widely spread these days but that doesn’t mean men still don’t have a ways to go in being able to express themselves emotionally.
Some inroads have been made, for sure and my feeling is that men are definitely doing better in regards to relationships in the modern day, but divorce and domestic violence are very much still problems that still need answers so that women can live the lives that they should be able to without fear or favour.
Anyway, please click through if this topic interests you and if you’re a man like me, reach out and contact your local men’s shed.
It might just change your life, for the better.
I haven’t posted in a while but when I read this I felt it had a place in this little space I have curated over many years.
And before you ask…but it’s about religion…?
Well yes, I agree but there’s also a connection in the article to sexuality and how religion subverts and squashes the beauty in female sexuality.
Louise sounds like a woman I could totally have a drink and a good yak with, and I reckon I will definitely buy her book because it’s clear to anyone paying attention that religion is next level fucked up when it comes to human sexuality.
Cults, Pentecostalism, Catholic BS, abortion rights etc. etc…I am sure you get the drift. It’s all connected in some shitty way that only seeks to subjugate women and ensure female sexuality stays in the shadows.
Anyhoo, please click through if the connection between sex and religion interests you.
It certainly does for me.
Madonna – Like A Prayer
I just read the post below from Tris and felt I needed to repost it here largely because it was such a positive read.
Tris clearly articulates her situation in this post and how she has gone from a woman in sexual chains to one released.
I have feeling that there are more than a few women out there like Tris, who are locked into patriarchal prison, which unfortunately so many men are fine with maintaining but for whatever reason cannot see.
And then there are some who just like the default creation and actively subvert female sexual power & energy at every take.
Also to be clear, this isn’t anywhere as simple as you might expect and thus I would contend that there is also a large cohort of women who like the way things have been and are very keen to not see them change.
But times are a changin, and there is no holding back this tide so if on reading this you decide to take a chance and trust in your sexuality, I hope it is a good experience and you come out of it with more faith in yourself and your place in the world.
Anyway, please have a read and I hope you walk down the Medium road & support writers like Tris because women like her are contributing to a better world for all of us.
Tears For Fears – Woman In Chains
Came across this thread on Reddit and found it interesting.
I have written about jealousy before and frankly can’t admit to knowing any more about or indeed having any more or less control over it than anyone else.
I am however, a student of the mind and as it is our largest sexual organ and primarily the place where jealousy will show itself from I had to repost this thread here.
Please have a read of the article and as much of the thread as you can manage (I got a few scrolls in) and if you want to discuss this important emotion as related to sexuality, please add a comment.
I would love to read other people’s take on it.
The Gun Blossoms – Hey Jealousy
There lots in the Medium link below to gorge your mind on.
A bit of sexy, a bit of psychology, a bit of looking inwards & outwards to understand where you are on the great escalator of your sexual life.
As a self proclaimed lover of all things kink, I dig any and all discussion on this subject. I really love the psychology side of sexuality and how the mind combines with your stage of sexual growth and understanding.
We are all different and at different stages in our lives, sexual development and awareness and if you are interested in walking this road it pays to understand as many sides of your sexy shape before you decide to open up to a prospective partner in kinky crime.
Are you a sexy Pentagon, a simple but efficient circle, a crazy deep octagon or something else entirely?
Anyhoo, Meghan nails it to the mast below (way better than me) so I highly recommend you click through and if you aren’t satiated after this, read some more of her stuff… it’s good 😛
Lastly, as I always say, Medium is a subscription service and a bloody good one at that. Please grab yourself a subscription if it’s right for you at this time and blow your mind on any and all subjects on the site.
Red Hot Chili Peppers – Sir Psycho Sexy
I have been thinking about writing something on the subject of being single for some time now.
In fact, I think I have written before about the Australian 2016 Census results which on census night saw nearly 1 person in 4 living alone.
And I expect that we will see this number increase again when the 2021 results are released to public view in July this year.
The article below is from the BBC and asks why we collectively are still of the mind that choosing to live alone is a bad thing.
Clearly there is still a great deal of stigma out there which saw a person I respect greatly exit Twitter recently because they were sick of fighting again this historical juggernaut.
For mine, I hope the number increases as clearly there is more than enough people on the planet currently and we really should be slowing down & assessing what an optimal carrying capacity for the planet is currently.
And I am not suggesting that number can’t or shouldn’t increase.
I just want to see some sensible analysis and staying single and or raising small families is preferable until that analysis is complete we understand what the planet needs to sustain us.
Unfortunately, this will have to be led by individuals because governments still have their heads in the sand and are not interested in the slightest in singing the praises of those who choose to live this way.
So, for mine, staying single is a good thing and I look forward to seeing old and outdated tropes on the deficiencies of this choice disappear sooner rather than later.
Feel free to comment if you have other thoughts.
This looks interesting.
It has a great show motto for a start ” Sex is the highway to health” but whilst this is a strong sentence well worth exploring further in its own right, the show – Lust – looks really interesting itself.
Please have a look if it’s something that interests you. I will definitely be having a look for it and hope that it shows on SBS here in Australia because I have interest in another bloody streaming subscription.
Anyway, that’s me for this short & sweet post.
I have spoken at length about sex education on this blog with the aim of trying to assist ongoing education in this important area of human development in my small way.
I was though saddened to read this just now as reported in Psypost and written by Beth Ellwood;
This study says that sex education was better 25 years ago. Wow!
So why is that? Is this the pendulum of conservatism showing its hand or religion or both. Or is this something else altogether?
I am confused and genuinely interested in reading the article again and properly this time to see what has influenced this ordinary result.
If you read this article and have an opinion on it, please add a comment as I would like to understand this research and it subsequent results better.
BTW – here’s a link to the Reddit feed I found this article in…
The link below is a heavy viewing and more great short film from Dust.
It’s heavy but it’s good, and well worth a look IMHO. It’s about a couple who have drifted apart. The male is the protagonist and clearly the main instigator of the rift.
But as anyone who knows anything about relationships, there’s always two to blame
Seriously, check this out. I am stoked that Dust popped into my YT feed.
It’s been a great journey thus far and I look forward to many more interesting sci-fi takes on all things human sexuality & relationships.
This is a bit of interesting…
I highly recommend that you read the article below as there’s a lot to process in it. Coco Khan has done a fantastic job in listening to this couple and doing them justice in the article.
Essentially, Lacey & Flynn are putting themselves out there via podcast to talk about all things on sex and their relationship. Apparently they actually have sex during the podcast!
I have read the article a couple of times and whilst I applaud them both in taking on a massive subject such as sex, it’s probably not a pod I could see myself listening to.
Why? Well I think the older I get the less interested I am in sex with another human. It’s hard work especially navigating the emotional side that one must confront if you want more than a one night stand.
I may though check out an episode or two from Flynn where he is talking about male sexuality. That is something I definitely relate to at present
All that said though, this pod is recommended if you have the energy and are willing to put yourself out there (in a more difficult time than usual).
My thanks to Coco for this article. It’s a good read and I hope you get something out of it.
Bjork – Big Time Sensuality
Libido…the main attraction at all of our respective showgrounds. The proverbial rollercoaster!
Not a day goes by (as a male) where I not up and/or down in regards to this bodily function, especially now as I get older. One upon a time I could spank the monkey four times a day, sleep for 8 hours and repeat without an issue.
Now, it’s like once a day at best. And frankly I am completely fine with that. Because for once in my life I can occasionally break that life-cycle and save up that precious orgasm so it’s volcanic when I reach climax. Damn…that be some good times!
Dipsea – being the amazing sex positive company that it is, have a good explainer on libido which you will find at the link. It’s worth a few minutes of your time if this is something that interests you. I found the article an enjoyable read.
The main takeaway for me is that libido is something that we should never ever stress about. There’s enough in this life already to stress about, and then some.
And I really liked the self-care advice regards masturbation. I hold strong opinions on masturbation as a tool that can really keep you on a level and it’s great for a good nights sleep also.
Anyhoo, that’s me for this short and sweet post.
Have a great Christmas or however you celebrate the season and I will see you back here for another year of stepping ever so gently through the minefield that is human sexuality.
Eartha Kitt – Santa Baby
Update: this post has gone a bit crazy so it’s high time I mentioned the author.
Linked article by: Alexandra Jones.
A good’n below tis…(translates as there is a good post below).
Found this on The Guardian Australia and after reading it, I felt there was some good stuff in the article that needed to be further shared.
At 50 years of age, I completely get the need for quality sex. 34 years in training surely is enough time to dot your i’s and cross your t’s on this important human activity.
I enjoyed lots about this article, especially the mind and how important it is, being present and also opening your mind to all the possibilities that intimacy offers.
Anyway, as always, if human sexuality is your bag (baby – Mr Austin Powers), then this article above will be a moth to a flame moment for you, and I will be the other moth circling the light totally engaged with it also.
And I promise to say hi as we dance around it, wings outstretched, totally enamoured by its beauty.
AES (for N’s Oma)
Donna Summer – Love To Love You Baby
I just came across this and it has knocked me out temporarily. This post is going to end here, but please read the NYT article at the link.
Ok, it’s a day or so past when I posted this and I am still a little shocked, but happy that education about sex is finally trickling down.
I am also extremely 🙏 for living in a secular country.
Women here are still fighting an uphill battle in many of these areas but things are changing for the better by the day.
Mad props to Mona Eltahawy for what she is doing also.
Check her out on Patreon if you can and please support her work. She is sticking it to the man and I, as a man, love this.
All in all, my heart goes out to any and all women who are oppressed and who can’t get access to simple sexual education. I do hope things keep changing in your countries and communities.
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