My MISOGYNIST Australia.

Hi all,

You may or may not have seen the many article’s relating broadly to the subject of Australian misogyny in your local media of late.

But in short, its clear that we have a big problem here in Australia.

The patriarchy running the show as abley assisted by women has generally been the norm for a long time in this wide brown land and that needs to change. STAT.

In my strong opinion as backed up by a life lived reinforced through lots of observing, reading and listening Australian men have and continue to treat women poorly with the proof being the death of one woman every week in this country.

Just STOP and think on that for a moment.

We are a first world country with much to be proud of but every week of the year sees one of our women die at the hand of a male.

This figure doesnt take into account those that are hospitalised or those that seek emergency accommodation from violent relationships etc.

That’s a whole other statisic.

We have a problem and based on what I have seen and heard as late of this afternoon specifically from those who claim to lead this nation, I dont feel like there is any real momentum being rounded up by our lawmakers/regulators that will investigate and then implement the solutions that clearly are necessary to eliminate this issue once and for all.

Its going to make for interesting times politically in this country going forward so watch this space.

Because lots of women are sitting somewhere right now between fed up and destroying the joint and that isnt a good place mentally for a large and growing cohort of the populace.

So to recap. This issue isn’t going away nor can it be spun away by skeezy politicians or slipped under that very large piece of carpet that the current government has used to death previously.

It’s reform we need.

There should be no further obfuscation only action.

Regards

AES

Julia Gillard speech.

People Have The Power…Yes, we do.

My porn life: what my years as a sex writer taught me about my desires.

Hi all,

This looks like another great read on the subject of subjects.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/feb/16/want-me-tracy-clark-flory-excerpt-sex-writer-reporter

I am off to find this book now and I hope after you have had a look at the link above, you might also.

Education is key to us finding real gender balance.

Regards
AES

Why are increasing numbers of women choosing to be single?

Hi all,

Here’s a article that I found in Guardian Australia this morning as written by the author from her upcoming book:

Self Contained: Scenes From A Single Life by Emma John.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/jan/17/why-are-increasing-numbers-of-women-choosing-to-be-single

I really enjoyed this article.  I am not a single woman but have danced around many of the subjects discussed in this article over a number of years because I feel that all the points presented are very important for both genders across the board.

The message that I have tried to communicate is that marriage shouldn’t be the only option in our lives.  I strongly believe in this sentence.

And this article and I gather Emma’s book goes deeper to make this point albeit as a woman who understands the scope of the debate much better than I can and all the factors involved.

Please have a read of the article if this is something you think about on occasion.  Its really good food for thought.

Its also a subject poignant at the moment as the current Australian conservative government and their friends in supporting organisations seek to try on a proposal for people to stay in relationships for two years after trouble makes itself known.

This in my opinion is a bridge too far and it will be interesting if they seek to give it oxygen in this term of government.

Anyway, that’s me for this one.
Catch ya,

AES

Cyndi L – Speaking Truth

How I stopped feeling threatened by porn by Michelle Brown via Medium.

Hi all,

This is a good read IMHO.

Michelle opens up about pornography and how it has affected her.

And I can see how Women can feel like this, living and existing in a highly sexualized world where Women have to compete against a patriarchal regime that seeks to control them and their sexuality at every drop of the hat.

Thankfully, times are a changin and those trickle changes will continue to bring balance to the gender spectrum as the years go by.

https://link.medium.com/j3tKnwWjYcb

Please have a read of this link above (and support writers like Michelle) if you are interested in my primer noting that Medium is a paid subscription site.

I have barely touched on this massive subject with this post but maybe the subject interests you and you will dig deeper because to do so will take you on a great journey.

A journey that I hope makes our world a better place for all one day in the future.

“Democracy is and will always be, a work in progress”.

Cheers
AES

Deeper Underground…

“6 Kinks I Didn’t Think I’d Like” via Medium.

Hi all,

Clicked on this link for shitz ‘n gigs this morning and I ended up really liking the article.
I liked that Caitlin explained the kinks and how they made her feel and I loved the positivity of the article.

And the bonus was that I got to understand another person’s perspective in regards to these acts.

“6 Kinks I Didn’t Think I’d Like” by Caitlin Jill Anders https://link.medium.com/8MIMOCS25ab

All in all it was another great Medium read.
Please click on the link if you are intrigued but know that you will need a subscription to do so.

I cant speak highly enough of the diversity of opinions on the site.  It’s a great way to engage with various topics at your own pace and way better than a newspaper IMHO.

Anyway, please enjoy.

AES

“I’m Finally Super Horny…& Men Are Stressed.” via Medium.

Hi all,

I found this on Medium this morning as written by Lisa Martens.

It’s both a great read and one chock full of “lolz”.  But I think there’s also a lesson in the laughs for those that are paying attention.

“I’m Finally Super Horny…& Men Are Stressed.” by Lisa Martens https://link.medium.com/ZKaM3iHcvab

For me it highlights the change that is bearing down on us like a freight train, but I will have more to say on this soon.

As always, a quick disclaimer.  I have my own Medium subscription to read these as will you.
It’s a great site that you will get so much out of for so little, with this link above being just one example of the great writing available.

Stay safe in these crazy times,
AES

“The Magic of Audio Porn” via Medium.

Hi all,

I have written about this subject previously and still support it highly.

For when it comes to the erotic, diversity must rule in my very humble opinion.

Lillian nails it with this article, which, yes, is another Medium article that I am riding coat-tail’s on, but hey, if it’s good writing or a subject I place value upon, it should be up in lights I think.

“The Magic of Audio Porn” by Lillian Grover. https://link.medium.com/EE4GXgXRN8

Anyhoo, as always I hope you get something from this post remembering that Medium is a paid site unlike my little blog here.

Which I do, because I continue to be amazed by human sexuality and all its flawed beauty.

Regards
AES

My life in sex: the ethical non-monogamist

Hi all,

I found this in Guardian Australia this morning and whilst short & sweet, highlights for me why I am a fan of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory.

My life in sex: the ethical non-monogamist https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/sep/11/my-life-in-sex-the-ethical-non-monogamist?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_WordPress

Its a no-brainer really and whilst it seems hard on the surface, if the initial communication rules are established and abided by then I think its fair to say the pay-off’s, not unlike capital interest, are better for all parties.

I hope this becomes a reality for more people because it clearly fits with a society that values both genders equally for their contribution.

Regards
AES

Howard Jones – All I Want

“We Are NOT Monogamous by Nature” via Medium.

Hi all,

True dat.

At the link below Claire Divino has written a piece a lot of you may well identify with and relate to as I did.

I have been trying to put paragraphs together like this for years now but in the finest traditions of writing, the words only come when they want to.

“We Are NOT Monogamous by Nature” by Claire Divino https://link.medium.com/4PKz5s2oz9

From my point of view, this is a great lead into a post that I have written which I will drop IDC.

But if reading this whets your whistle, please head over to Medium and soak a while in this and so many other posts of beauty written by people who, like I do, care about the big picture that encompasses our humanity.

Remember though, Medium is a paid site so you will need a sub if you want to indulge regularly like I do.

Regards
AES

p.s. Just one fix at a time though please!

‘Do you get jealous?’: the six questions I always get asked about being polyamorous.

Hi all,

A quick and easy to read article about Paul Dalgarno’s new book on polyamory.

If you are interested in polyamory, this article will be a good read and introduction to a very worthwhile way of leading a life.

I havent read his book but will in due course (and review it) as there is always more to learn and ruminate on when it comes to human relationships.

True, it isnt for everyone, but I feel that in certain individuals it was meant to be.

Check out Paul’s article here;

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/sep/02/do-you-get-jealous-the-six-questions-i-always-get-asked-about-being-polyamorous

And if you want to read more, there are a few books that I have read and reviewed on this blog which will certainly enlighten and educate you further depending on how far down the rabbit hole you want to go.

Cheers
AES

“Why Erotica Will Free Your Mind”

Hi all,

Am a bit off my game of late.  COVID-19 has it well and truly engaged it in self-preservation mode.

Came across this tonight though and dug it.
It’s a well written piece on the beauty that is the written word in the erotic form.

I am all for expanding ones mind when it comes to our sexual selves.
And I clearly am a fan of all the wonderful women on Medium who are filling this space with their beautiful writing on all manner of subjects inside the space that is our human sexuality.

So please, click the link and have a read.  If you dig this as I did please come back and comment.

Note: Medium is a paid site and I have my own subscription to read these stories.

“Why Erotica Will Free Your Mind” by Amber Cezanne https://link.medium.com/EdAYFIdR98

Cheers
AES

“What Makes a Woman Great in Bed?”

Hi all,

This article popped up on my Medium feed today and I am glad it did.

“What Makes a Woman Great in Bed?” by Kim Petersen https://link.medium.com/81FFRttR17

Kim has written a great article here.

What did I like about it you may be asking?

I liked that she spoke truths about women which are some that when added with other concerns can over floweth thine relationship cup.

And dont get me wrong I clearly get that women are only half of the equation.  Men certainly contribute their own special blend of shite that also adds fuel to the fires that breakout in relationships, some of which can be extinguished, and other’s not.


Please have a look noting that Medium is a paid subscription.

Thus you will need to contribute to read articles like this and many others that I have found brilliant.

Cheers
AES

“The Intern”, via Medium.

Hi all,

Another great Medium post to on-share. Adriana M has given those who click through on this link, some beautiful & sexy female written erotica.

As I have said few times now, the women on Medium are dishing it up hot & spicy and they are all fine, fine reads.

“The Intern” by Adriana M https://link.medium.com/YP7Yu3lZK7

Please do yourself a favour and click this concise and well written piece that I hope will see you grooving your way into that beautiful, private place of arousal a few paragraphs in.

Please note: Medium is a paid site.  I have a subsription which enables me to share these with you and you will need one too to access the work.  I highly recommend spending a few bucks on it.

Yours in sweet, sweet heat.
AES

https://youtu.be/-ZtQlbhPfAw

“Rape Me Between Eleven and Midnight”

Ahhh…ok.

I am not sure what to think of this one?

Oddly I kept reading it even though I was a little repulsed and as I write this I am still a little lost for words.

That is why I am going to exit stage left at this point in proceedings and leave you to make your own minds up.

“Rape Me Between Eleven and Midnight” by Amelia Devereaux https://link.medium.com/nmYbJ4bin7

Enjoy now,
AES

Nirvana, Rape Me, Live

A quote from The Ethical Slut

Hi all,

I love this book and I have loved it for a long time.  Here’s a taste for you…

“To us, a slut is a person of any gender who celebrates sexuality according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.”
“Sluts may choose to have solo sex or to get cozy with the Fifth Fleet. They may be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or radical activists or peaceful suburbanites.”
“As proud sluts, we believe that sex and sexual love are fundamental forces for good activities with the potential to strengthen intimate bonds, enhance lives, open spiritual awareness, even change the world. Furthermore, we believe that every consensual sexual relationship has these potentials and that any erotic pathway consciously chosen and mindfully followed, can be a positive, creative force in the lives of individuals and their communities.”

“Sluts share their sexuality the way philanthropists share their money: because they have a lot of it to share, because it makes them happy to share it, because sharing makes the world a better place.”

“Sluts often find that the more love and sex they give away, the more they have: a loaves-and-fishes miracle in which greed and generosity go hand in hand to provide more for everybody. Imagine living in sexual abundance.”

exerpt from (2nd edition):
The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton, Janet. W. Hardy.

3rd Edition now available.

Go buy this book.  In regards to our intimate relationships, it will open your mind up like a can-opener!

Regards

AES