“What It Means When a Woman Says She Has a High Sex Drive”

Hi all,

Still absolutely loving Medium.  There are so many wonderfully written articles on there, I feel bombarded with choice.

As for my love of the complex construct that is human sexuality, there’s a few writers on Medium whose writing I absolutely love and which gravitates with me usually after just a couple of sentences.

This article is another one.  Yael writes about female sexual energy and how it is similar but also very different to male sexual energy.

I have experienced this many times over the years and frankly still can’t manage to find consensus with it.

“What It Means When a Woman Says She Has a High Sex Drive” by Yael Wolfe https://link.medium.com/kQA3NQ2qZ5

But “It is, what it is” and so whilst this gender difference confounds and frustrates me I am slowly getting to a point where I no longer care and as such prefer to gravitate as a mandate to some quiet time with the Fleshlight and good lube.

Anyway, please consider clicking the link and maybe subscribing to this excellent site chock full of anything and everything you have ever wanted to know more about.

I will be a Medium subscriber for sometime to come I feel.

Cheers
AES

“Why Do Men Want to Have Sex With Women?”

Hi all,

Another great Medium post for y’all.

Christine pretty much nails the confusion I feel in wanting but never finding or accessing regular healthy sex.

I read something like this many years ago. A woman was prescribed Testosterone to help her with a medical condition and not long after taking it started to feel what I and most if not all  other men feel on a daily basis.

I really wish I had kept that article and additionally would love if kids were taught this fact in school.

It might also actually help us reverse the selection she mentions that has women still striving for equality as I write this and whom are likely to be on that road for sometime to come yet.

Actually, I wouldn’t be surprised if they do this already in Iceland.  See my post “Iceland, I Love You (even more now)!” for further reading.

Anyway, I hope you have a read of Christine’s post and it helps you understand the dance we all cut a merry little jig too a little more.

Cheers
AES

“Why Do Men Want to Have Sex With Women?” by Christine Stevens https://link.medium.com/rXEwgGNnP5

https://youtu.be/qNM6IuA87eM

Polyamory in a pandemic: who do you quarantine with when you’re not monogamous?

Hi all,

Polyamory ain’t dead yet.  Yeehaw!

My great hope is that over time it will find it’s place within society as a viable relationship option for those that value honesty and integrity in their partners.

And I think it will as women slowly become true equals within society and the patriarchy is pushed back into a place that sees it enhancing our species rather than seeking to control it.


Anyhoo, have a read of the article  below and hit me up with a comment if you have thoughts you want to share.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/apr/01/polyamory-quarantine-coronavirus-pandemic

Till then though.
Keep living & loving (yourself only at this time please).

AES

Polygamy is about to be decriminalised in Utah. Is it good news for women?

Hi all,

About the closest I have been to polygamy is that TV show “Big Love” from the US that SBS Australia showed many years ago.


I can’t remember watching more than one series but I think I watched enough at the time to get a feel for how their particular household worked.
The adult male had three wives under one roof if I remember correctly and via a roster system, spent time with each of them equally.

I remember thinking that there was some good attributes to this sort of arrangement but I also saw enough drawbacks to make me, in an overall sense think this type of relationship wasn’t ideal.

BTW, my opinion is still completely subjective as I haven’t lived like this nor know anyone who has.

Anyway, getting back to the title of this post (via Guardian Australia) after having read the article, with a few more years under the belt and very much taking into account my poor understanding of this relationship style I think it is good thing that polygamy is finally being decriminalised.

Please read of the article (it’s a really good read) at the link as it has three different perspectives that are all interesting in their own way.

My take from reading the above is that I think decriminalisation has to be tried on for size and given time to breathe and settle so it can be fully assessed as to it’s suitability within society.

Secretly I hope it thrives as I am strongly of the opinion that one size doesn’t fit all and that’s why I look forward to watching this space with interest to see what happens next.

AES

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/05/polygamy-is-about-to-be-decriminalised-in-utah-is-it-good-news-for-women

‘There’s zero evidence that it’s worse for children’: parenting in a polyamorous relationship

Hi all,

This is a really good read and it has frankly made my night.

I have seen polyamory rise up from nothing in Australia and then seemingly slowly die off as various organisations folded.

This article proves the fear mongers wrong and I hope we see a resurgence one day.

What I love most about this article is that which attracted me to polyamory all those years ago when I first turned the pages of The Ethical Slut.

Honesty.

But that is me and both you and I dear reader are very different people. We all have different views and different life experiences that make us the people we are.

‘There’s zero evidence that it’s worse for children’: parenting in a polyamorous relationship

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/01/zero-evidence-worse-for-children-parenting-in-polyamorous-relationship

Anyway, have a read and if a comment crosses your mind, you know the drill.

AES

What I learned talking to 120 women about their sex lives and desires.

Hi all,

This book looks very interesting.

Having seen and experienced this from partners over the years I am really happy that finally the puzzle pieces are falling into place.

I will pick the book up at some stage and post a full review for you.

AES

What I learned talking to 120 women about their sex lives and desires

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/05/katherine-rowland-the-pleasure-gap-women-sex-lives-desire

“Polyamory Improves My Relationship With My Husband”

Hi all,

Check out this ENM/Poly read on Medium if you have some time.

Elle writes well. Looking forward to more of her thoughts on human relationships & sexuality as her inspiration strikes.

Yet another great case for moving fowards as a species with relationship options vice the tired old default of marriage in plain view with add-ons in the shadows.

Enjoy

AES

“Polyamory Improves My Relationship With My Husband” by Elle Beau https://link.medium.com/dJP6GlBX02

The family in 2050: artificial wombs, robot carers and the rise of single fathers by choice

Hi all,

First of all. Happy New Year to one and all wherever you are reading my little blog from.

An interesting read below if you have time.

What I get from it is that yes, we have an ageing population and yes, we are solving a few problems but many still exist and others are being created by the day.

All in all, it makes for an interesting 2020’s, 30’s and beyond for humanity.

For mine if I had my time over again I would escape to the country dependent only on a small sustainable town, build a sustainable house on a small block that had bushfire protection built in via an underground tank(s), grow my own food via permaculture, and aim to settle down with a crew of like-minded folk who shared a love of community especially when it comes to children.

It wouldn’t be easy but it would be rewarding in the long term.

AES

The family in 2050: artificial wombs, robot carers and the rise of single fathers by choice

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/dec/31/family-2050-artificial-wombs-robot-carers-single-fathers

I’m 41. My boyfriend doesn’t want kids, so I’ll have them alone – without leaving him

Hi all,

Another nail in the coffin of marriage tis…

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/nov/28/parents-children-alone-boyfriend-age?

This is why I dig change, it’s inevitable.

I reckon that by the time fate comes a knocking to tap me on the shoulder, marriage may well be a shadow of its former “one size fits all” self.

As that bloke said in the Guinness commercials years ago…

“I like to watch”.

AES

p.s. thanks to Guardian Australia for giving me continual food for thought.

‘Self-partnered’ Emma Watson is right: we need more ways to be single

This.

From Brigid Delaney (totes a fan!).

via The Guardian, Australia.

https://www.theguardian.com/film/2019/nov/06/self-partnered-emma-watson-is-right-we-need-more-ways-to-be-single?

Or this.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/nov/06/consciously-uncoupled-the-joy-of-self-partnership?

Dear readers,

These articles are both, right up my alley.

Why?

They are another couple of nails in the coffin of the way things have been done without question for some time now.

I speak of the patriarchy, marriage and everything spinning around these two axis that needs a good dose of change IMHO.

“Change is inevitable, growth is optional”

John C. Maxwell

A quick recap.

It’s true that much good has come from this way of living over the past few centuries, but holding the good to account are volumes of bad with just one example (of many) being, one woman is murdered by her current or former partner every week in Australia currently. Check out more here;

https://www.ourwatch.org.au/understanding-violence/facts-and-figures

For mine, I am strongly of the opinion we have it arse about presently and whilst we humans love company and cohabitation can be a great thing, when it comes to relationships, we need options rather than a contract.

These two articles affirm to me that this is the direction we are heading and I am happy where the compass needle is currently pointing.

I will continue to write about this massive subject as I get my head around it, but until then…get scrubbin!

AES

Can we really talk about sex?

Hi all,

I originally first wrote about the article below in 2011’ish as liked it and felt it was something that needed to be addressed.

This update culls the post of previous times reworking it with the benefit of hindsight and a few more years under the belt.

The article is from the excellent Good Men Project (which I havent read in quite a while) written by a woman whom I have a lot of time for, primarily because she can see that arguing and fighting about sexual power is a complete fucking waste of time not to mention that it doesnt solve a damn thing.

Well, that is how I read her writing anyway.

Her name is Julie Gillis and this is her piece here. Please take a few moments to read it.

I really like what she has written and agree with pretty much all of it.

The answer is multi-faceted for mine;

  1. Teach sexual communication early and often.
  2. Flirtation – this needs to be in the picture, also from a young age.
  3. Gender equality – say no more.
  4. More ideas to follow…

Anyway, I hope this whets your whistle and has you coming back for more because I can’t get enough of multi-layered deep articles like this one.

AES