I just came across this article and it really resonated with me.
I warn you, it’s bloody sad but please have a read of it at the link below and then make up your own mind.
Valerie Bacot: French woman who murdered her rapist husband walks free from court.
The Telegraph via @inkl https://inkl.com/a/bddkMAILBMv
For my one cents worth, this is yet another story in a recent chapter of an old and long book on patriachal control that really needs more support from the masses to enable it to cut through and be heard in our centres of power.
That support will empower our politicians to move on it and make some real forward progress on gender relations.
Without that support and overall understanding of what is at stake here from the general public, women will continue to suffer at the hands of men as they have for far too long now.
Things need to change and the only way this happens is through legislation and thus law.
It’s just not good enough for even one woman (first world Australian context) to suffer at the hands of a man in 2021.
Please read up on this subject and if you also feel that change is needed, then please seek out the political party at the next election that has policies which will move us forward and give them your vote.
This must stop.
Till It Happens To You, Lady Gaga
I had moved away from poly for a few reasons but then tonight I read this article by Thomas and I think I need to revisit The Ethical Slut soon for a refresh.
Back in the day I used to think polyamory was the next big thing but that time came & went (in Australia specifically) with the default in marriage staying the course as the default long-term relationship option.
Polyamory isnt dead yet though and I really hope it hangs around because I feel its time will come again as both genders methodically find solutions to problems that have and still constrain gender balance.
I see traditional marriage as big supporter of gender inequality but that said I am sure there are many great examples of marriage that show it in a better light.
Anyway, this article will provide you with a small window into the world of the polyamourous via one of the many emotional mines on the minefield of love that can stop a polyamourous relationship in its tracks.
Compersion; is defined in the Urban Dictionary as:
“A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship
Thomas discusses compersion and in doing so will take you in a journey about commitment, patience and empathy for your significant other.
Anyhoo, I hope you click through (see my p.s. below first) and until next time peeps, keep living & loving like there’s no tomorrow.
Here’s a bit of QOTSA to get you in a loving mood.I wanna make it wit chu
p.s. Medium is a subscriber based site so you are going to have to cough up some cash to read the main link.
I reckon its completely worth it as Medium is chock full of brainy goodness, but that’s your call.
Yes, yes, yes, yes…more…more…
give me more…
not sex, but education!
This young woman is bloody amazing IMHO. She has the potential to push a stalled agenda along in a way it hasnt been for years.
That said, I doubt that we will see anything from the PM, because he’s clearly all about short termism and holding onto the prime ministership.
And politics and ideology unfortunately gets in the way of so many great ideas and movements but you know, it never totally snuffs out these things.
They live on until the time is right and those changes can proceed without the largely pathetic barriers and excuses that are made by selfish people who hold power and cant or won’t get their collective heads around KAIZEN for our society.
Anyway, FWIW, I look forward to hearing and seeing Chanel continue to talk about this subject widely as that opens doors and brings people into the room who have wanted to be part of this conversation who will add their voices to the fray and keep the conversation moving.
Its all very exciting because I have been raving about sex education for the past 8 or more years.
We might actually get somewhere!
I have used this track before but I just love it, so here’s another run…
Tears For Fears, Change
This looks like another great read on the subject of subjects.
I am off to find this book now and I hope after you have had a look at the link above, you might also.
Education is key to us finding real gender balance.
Here’s a article that I found in Guardian Australia this morning as written by the author from her upcoming book:
Self Contained: Scenes From A Single Life by Emma John.
I really enjoyed this article. I am not a single woman but have danced around many of the subjects discussed in this article over a number of years because I feel that all the points presented are very important for both genders across the board.
The message that I have tried to communicate is that marriage shouldn’t be the only option in our lives. I strongly believe in this sentence.
And this article and I gather Emma’s book goes deeper to make this point albeit as a woman who understands the scope of the debate much better than I can and all the factors involved.
Please have a read of the article if this is something you think about on occasion. Its really good food for thought.
Its also a subject poignant at the moment as the current Australian conservative government and their friends in supporting organisations seek to try on a proposal for people to stay in relationships for two years after trouble makes itself known.
This in my opinion is a bridge too far and it will be interesting if they seek to give it oxygen in this term of government.
Anyway, that’s me for this one.
Cyndi L – Speaking Truth
This is a good read IMHO.
Michelle opens up about pornography and how it has affected her.
And I can see how Women can feel like this, living and existing in a highly sexualized world where Women have to compete against a patriarchal regime that seeks to control them and their sexuality at every drop of the hat.
Thankfully, times are a changin and those trickle changes will continue to bring balance to the gender spectrum as the years go by.
Please have a read of this link above (and support writers like Michelle) if you are interested in my primer noting that Medium is a paid subscription site.
I have barely touched on this massive subject with this post but maybe the subject interests you and you will dig deeper because to do so will take you on a great journey.
A journey that I hope makes our world a better place for all one day in the future.
“Democracy is and will always be, a work in progress”.
I loved this read and maybe you will find something in it also?
In my opinion, we men have a long way to travel to find gender balance and restore and reset the world that we have collectively steered towards catastrophe.
This read alludes to that journey and why it is so important to get on that track as soon as each of us can.
Please have a read if you have a few minutes.
Merry Christmas all,
Clicked on this link for shitz ‘n gigs this morning and I ended up really liking the article.
I liked that Caitlin explained the kinks and how they made her feel and I loved the positivity of the article.
And the bonus was that I got to understand another person’s perspective in regards to these acts.
“6 Kinks I Didn’t Think I’d Like” by Caitlin Jill Anders https://link.medium.com/8MIMOCS25ab
All in all it was another great Medium read.
Please click on the link if you are intrigued but know that you will need a subscription to do so.
I cant speak highly enough of the diversity of opinions on the site. It’s a great way to engage with various topics at your own pace and way better than a newspaper IMHO.
Anyway, please enjoy.
I found this on Medium this morning as written by Lisa Martens.
It’s both a great read and one chock full of “lolz”. But I think there’s also a lesson in the laughs for those that are paying attention.
“I’m Finally Super Horny…& Men Are Stressed.” by Lisa Martens https://link.medium.com/ZKaM3iHcvab
For me it highlights the change that is bearing down on us like a freight train, but I will have more to say on this soon.
As always, a quick disclaimer. I have my own Medium subscription to read these as will you.
It’s a great site that you will get so much out of for so little, with this link above being just one example of the great writing available.
Stay safe in these crazy times,
I have written about this subject previously and still support it highly.
For when it comes to the erotic, diversity must rule in my very humble opinion.
Lillian nails it with this article, which, yes, is another Medium article that I am riding coat-tail’s on, but hey, if it’s good writing or a subject I place value upon, it should be up in lights I think.
“The Magic of Audio Porn” by Lillian Grover. https://link.medium.com/EE4GXgXRN8
Anyhoo, as always I hope you get something from this post remembering that Medium is a paid site unlike my little blog here.
Which I do, because I continue to be amazed by human sexuality and all its flawed beauty.
At the link below Claire Divino has written a piece a lot of you may well identify with and relate to as I did.
I have been trying to put paragraphs together like this for years now but in the finest traditions of writing, the words only come when they want to.
“We Are NOT Monogamous by Nature” by Claire Divino https://link.medium.com/4PKz5s2oz9
From my point of view, this is a great lead into a post that I have written which I will drop IDC.
But if reading this whets your whistle, please head over to Medium and soak a while in this and so many other posts of beauty written by people who, like I do, care about the big picture that encompasses our humanity.
Remember though, Medium is a paid site so you will need a sub if you want to indulge regularly like I do.
p.s. Just one fix at a time though please!
A quick and easy to read article about Paul Dalgarno’s new book on polyamory.
If you are interested in polyamory, this article will be a good read and introduction to a very worthwhile way of leading a life.
I havent read his book but will in due course (and review it) as there is always more to learn and ruminate on when it comes to human relationships.
True, it isnt for everyone, but I feel that in certain individuals it was meant to be.
Check out Paul’s article here;
And if you want to read more, there are a few books that I have read and reviewed on this blog which will certainly enlighten and educate you further depending on how far down the rabbit hole you want to go.
Am a bit off my game of late. COVID-19 has it well and truly engaged it in self-preservation mode.
Came across this tonight though and dug it.
It’s a well written piece on the beauty that is the written word in the erotic form.
I am all for expanding ones mind when it comes to our sexual selves.
And I clearly am a fan of all the wonderful women on Medium who are filling this space with their beautiful writing on all manner of subjects inside the space that is our human sexuality.
So please, click the link and have a read. If you dig this as I did please come back and comment.
Note: Medium is a paid site and I have my own subscription to read these stories.
“Why Erotica Will Free Your Mind” by Amber Cezanne https://link.medium.com/EdAYFIdR98
This article popped up on my Medium feed today and I am glad it did.
“What Makes a Woman Great in Bed?” by Kim Petersen https://link.medium.com/81FFRttR17
Kim has written a great article here.
What did I like about it you may be asking?
I liked that she spoke truths about women which are some that when added with other concerns can over floweth thine relationship cup.
And dont get me wrong I clearly get that women are only half of the equation. Men certainly contribute their own special blend of shite that also adds fuel to the fires that breakout in relationships, some of which can be extinguished, and other’s not.
Please have a look noting that Medium is a paid subscription.
Thus you will need to contribute to read articles like this and many others that I have found brilliant.
If you have checked out any of my previous posts of late, you will surely sense a theme. Women writing about sexuality on Medium.
For me it’s fresh. I have read a little before but this is the first time that it’s been so widely available.
It’s so good to read other opinions when 5 or more years ago I was struggling to find said content to balance this blog out.
Seriously, please do yourself a favour and head over there.
You will grow a few neurons and more than likely find something that will bring forth the wondrous warmth of arousal.
What more can you ask?
Medium is a paid site so you can’t read it without subscribing. I would contend though, that the few bucks it will cost you to subscribe to read genius like this is very much worth it.
p.s. I am not paid or do in anyway receive anything for these plugs.
It’s that bloody good!