via Reddit, https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/zwntgy/i_am_hazel_redgate_aka_portarossa_and_ive_been_a professional smut writer for 9 years.
I came across this thread on Reddit this morning and I am really enjoying the questions posed by the community and answers supplied by u/Portarossa. Please click through and have a read yourself if it’s something that interests you. Her deep dives sound really interesting as does her writing generally.
As for moi, I have written about erotica a little previously specifically as viewed through the lens of Medium.
I absolutely love some of the writers on there and how they can tease out a story and raise my temperature enough to, as someone mentions in the thread, needing rub one out!
I have not come across this lady previously but am stoked to stumble across her work because kind of like Dipsea and Medium, fantasy’s are so much better with some detail in the mix.
Anyway, will leave it here and try to get my updated creampie post out before the clock strikes midnight on NY Eve.
I have reworked it about 10 times so far and whilst I am close to happy, it refuses to flow for me. #bugger.
Catch you next time,
Just checked my Medium feed and Meghan has dropped this in the last couple of days.
“3 Unnoticeable Things I Learned From Watching Other Couples Have Sex” is an absolute bomb of a read.
FWIW, I will go on record here as a serial offender who is trying to get his head around the reverse of the problem that Meghan mentions.
I don’t think I am selfish but I am a hedonistic bastard who (unthinkingly) so easily hops, skips & jumps on the high speed line to pleasure during the act that I know for a fact that I have been considered a poor shag at times during this life.
Which is the reason that writing such as this is so valuable and I for one will be tipping Meghan after posting this because with her words she is asking us to think about how each of us does intimacy and whether you need a spring clean or indeed need to go back to the books.
So, as always I hope you will drop in on Meghan via this link and maybe check out a few of her other posts.
I really value her opinion and so many others on Medium. It is one of the anchorages in which I seek shelter when this world gets me down with all the death and destruction we (male hands bring mostly) allow to occur in our name.
Catch you next time people,
Icehouse – We Can Get Together (live)
OMG, OMG, OMG…soz, didn’t say hi, because this article has blown my tiny mind.
IF YOU ARE INTERESTED (and/or CARE) ABOUT SEXUALITY, PORN, CONSENT, SEX EDUCATION…then you really need to read this.
Why, because we need to smash the patriarchy and then rebuild sexuality from the ground up. #FACT
Porn has a part to play & if you have read a little of my take on things, you will have read that I am very interested in ethical porn and the positive sexual environment it can feed into.
I thus give massive props to Prof Alan McKee and the other researchers who took the time to look at this massive issue and provide guidance like this that will only help the debate we need to continue having, preferably more in the mainstream.
It proves to me that I am largely on the right track with this blog and as such will continue to link articles about human sexuality that I hope influence readers to read widely & most importantly communicate with others about this very important issue within humanity.
And please, if you do go down interesting rabbit holes and think it would be something I might enjoy then feel free to send me a message and I will check it out.
Jefferson Airplane – White Rabbit
I just read the post below from Tris and felt I needed to repost it here largely because it was such a positive read.
Tris clearly articulates her situation in this post and how she has gone from a woman in sexual chains to one released.
I have feeling that there are more than a few women out there like Tris, who are locked into patriarchal prison, which unfortunately so many men are fine with maintaining but for whatever reason cannot see.
And then there are some who just like the default creation and actively subvert female sexual power & energy at every take.
Also to be clear, this isn’t anywhere as simple as you might expect and thus I would contend that there is also a large cohort of women who like the way things have been and are very keen to not see them change.
But times are a changin, and there is no holding back this tide so if on reading this you decide to take a chance and trust in your sexuality, I hope it is a good experience and you come out of it with more faith in yourself and your place in the world.
Anyway, please have a read and I hope you walk down the Medium road & support writers like Tris because women like her are contributing to a better world for all of us.
Tears For Fears – Woman In Chains
This looks interesting.
It has a great show motto for a start ” Sex is the highway to health” but whilst this is a strong sentence well worth exploring further in its own right, the show – Lust – looks really interesting itself.
Please have a look if it’s something that interests you. I will definitely be having a look for it and hope that it shows on SBS here in Australia because I have interest in another bloody streaming subscription.
Anyway, that’s me for this short & sweet post.
I have spoken at length about sex education on this blog with the aim of trying to assist ongoing education in this important area of human development in my small way.
I was though saddened to read this just now as reported in Psypost and written by Beth Ellwood;
This study says that sex education was better 25 years ago. Wow!
So why is that? Is this the pendulum of conservatism showing its hand or religion or both. Or is this something else altogether?
I am confused and genuinely interested in reading the article again and properly this time to see what has influenced this ordinary result.
If you read this article and have an opinion on it, please add a comment as I would like to understand this research and it subsequent results better.
BTW – here’s a link to the Reddit feed I found this article in…
This is a bit of interesting…
I highly recommend that you read the article below as there’s a lot to process in it. Coco Khan has done a fantastic job in listening to this couple and doing them justice in the article.
Essentially, Lacey & Flynn are putting themselves out there via podcast to talk about all things on sex and their relationship. Apparently they actually have sex during the podcast!
I have read the article a couple of times and whilst I applaud them both in taking on a massive subject such as sex, it’s probably not a pod I could see myself listening to.
Why? Well I think the older I get the less interested I am in sex with another human. It’s hard work especially navigating the emotional side that one must confront if you want more than a one night stand.
I may though check out an episode or two from Flynn where he is talking about male sexuality. That is something I definitely relate to at present
All that said though, this pod is recommended if you have the energy and are willing to put yourself out there (in a more difficult time than usual).
My thanks to Coco for this article. It’s a good read and I hope you get something out of it.
Bjork – Big Time Sensuality
Libido…the main attraction at all of our respective showgrounds. The proverbial rollercoaster!
Not a day goes by (as a male) where I not up and/or down in regards to this bodily function, especially now as I get older. One upon a time I could spank the monkey four times a day, sleep for 8 hours and repeat without an issue.
Now, it’s like once a day at best. And frankly I am completely fine with that. Because for once in my life I can occasionally break that life-cycle and save up that precious orgasm so it’s volcanic when I reach climax. Damn…that be some good times!
Dipsea – being the amazing sex positive company that it is, have a good explainer on libido which you will find at the link. It’s worth a few minutes of your time if this is something that interests you. I found the article an enjoyable read.
The main takeaway for me is that libido is something that we should never ever stress about. There’s enough in this life already to stress about, and then some.
And I really liked the self-care advice regards masturbation. I hold strong opinions on masturbation as a tool that can really keep you on a level and it’s great for a good nights sleep also.
Anyhoo, that’s me for this short and sweet post.
Have a great Christmas or however you celebrate the season and I will see you back here for another year of stepping ever so gently through the minefield that is human sexuality.
Eartha Kitt – Santa Baby
Update: this post has gone a bit crazy so it’s high time I mentioned the author.
Linked article by: Alexandra Jones.
A good’n below tis…(translates as there is a good post below).
Found this on The Guardian Australia and after reading it, I felt there was some good stuff in the article that needed to be further shared.
At 50 years of age, I completely get the need for quality sex. 34 years in training surely is enough time to dot your i’s and cross your t’s on this important human activity.
I enjoyed lots about this article, especially the mind and how important it is, being present and also opening your mind to all the possibilities that intimacy offers.
Anyway, as always, if human sexuality is your bag (baby – Mr Austin Powers), then this article above will be a moth to a flame moment for you, and I will be the other moth circling the light totally engaged with it also.
And I promise to say hi as we dance around it, wings outstretched, totally enamoured by its beauty.
AES (for N’s Oma)
Donna Summer – Love To Love You Baby
I just came across this and it has knocked me out temporarily. This post is going to end here, but please read the NYT article at the link.
Ok, it’s a day or so past when I posted this and I am still a little shocked, but happy that education about sex is finally trickling down.
I am also extremely 🙏 for living in a secular country.
Women here are still fighting an uphill battle in many of these areas but things are changing for the better by the day.
Mad props to Mona Eltahawy for what she is doing also.
Check her out on Patreon if you can and please support her work. She is sticking it to the man and I, as a man, love this.
All in all, my heart goes out to any and all women who are oppressed and who can’t get access to simple sexual education. I do hope things keep changing in your countries and communities.
Dan Savage ROCKS!
He has single-handedly shown us how to build robust walls to protect those of us grasping at any one time with the many issues that make up human sexuality, against the conservative tide that seeks to erode sexuality to a lights off under the covers 5-minute wham-bam, thankyou ma’am exercise.
I used to read his column back in the day and always looked up to him as someone who wasn’t afraid to speak a truth that was being hushed daily whack-a-mole style by way too many blinkered fools.
I loved reading this article and I hope you do too.
He is a fantastic human being and I thank him for his contribution to humanity and sexuality.
A Better Way to Write About Sex – The Atlantic via @inkl https://inkl.com/a/wEpzjXHqYrz
I really enjoyed this read above (thanks Inkl). It’s tops of a big last four weeks in human sexuality here in Victoria, Australia.
We have had the bill passed to legalise sexwork (thanks to Fiona Patten, her team & those who supported the bill) which is massive in itself for all and sundry involved in this industry and then a couple of days ago, the Victorian parliament approved laws around sexual consent (stealthing etc.) which is also a huge step forward in gender equity.
Then about 20 minutes ago the article linked at the top of this post popped up in my Inkl.com feed.
I mean who knew that the inventor of Kelloggs conflakes was also negative about self-pleasure & masturbation?
If we had met, he & I would have surely had words, because masturbation is the bomb IMHO and is something I plan to do until my dying breath.
Anyhoo, have a read of the article if you are interested in venturing down this rabbit hole and maybe you will take an offshoot tunnel in the article and look into one of the books referenced in the article?
All in all though, I am stoked that we are making ground on the subject of sex slowly and surely whilst also leaving room for everyone to find their happy place in the many cul de sac’s on La Rue De Sex.
Mazzy Star – Fade Into You