There is NOTHING hotter than erotica written by a Woman.

Hi all,

If you have checked out any of my previous posts of late, you will surely sense a theme. Women writing about sexuality on Medium.

For me it’s fresh. I have read a little before but this is the first time that it’s been so widely available.

It’s so good to read other opinions when 5 or more years ago I was struggling to find said content to balance this blog out.

Seriously, please do yourself a favour and head over there.

You will grow a few neurons and more than likely find something that will bring forth the wondrous warmth of arousal.

What more can you ask?

Medium is a paid site so you can’t read it without subscribing. I would contend though, that the few bucks it will cost you to subscribe to read genius like this is very much worth it.

AES

p.s. I am not paid or do in anyway receive anything for these plugs.

It’s that bloody good!

“As A Sex Therapist, I Can Tell You You’re Asking The Wrong Question About Sexual Harassment”

And about bloody time…

Hi all BTW,

For the longest time I have thought that more needs to be done in this area of human sexuality.

I mean, surely you have seen the parade of men and a few women over the past decade whom have had their lives and careers ruined after being found GUILTY of sexual harassment?

And if you joined the dots at that time, did you talk about this epidemic with anyone?

I am guessing, probs not? 

It’s a male thing mostly and men mostly don’t talk about their sexuality to other men.
And women don’t talk to men etc. etc.

And around we go again.  Line em up!

What Stephen offers here is the solution.
And it’s pretty simple and if we could collectively pull our heads out of our arses, we might be able to pull together pretty quickly and solve this one so men & women could put this issue that refuses to die behind them.

But we won’t.  Not for a long while anyway for a number of reasons I won’t bore you with, suffice to say there is a solution and it starts when you read this post at the link.

Medium is a paid site so you can’t read this without joining but as I have mentioned a number of times, it will be worth a few bucks just to read genius like this.


“As A Sex Therapist, I Can Tell You You’re Asking The Wrong Question About Sexual Harassment” by Steven Ing https://link.medium.com/jjw07gXNy6

AES

https://youtu.be/79cG_F1GxfI

“What Actually is Pegging?”

Hi all,

Matilda is yet another of the many talented female writers on Medium breaking human sexuality into chewable chunks of mind blowing goodness.

But as I have mentioned previously and will always mention when reposting excellent writing, it will cost you to sup from the Medium well. 

For mine, that small investment is a wise one for all the many benefits that reading brings not to mention supporting writers to grow their skillset which only benefits us all later on down the track.

This one’s another gem.  If you have wondered what all the fuss is about here tis.

“What Actually is Pegging?” by Matilda Swinney https://link.medium.com/MF1BJZinw6

Enjoy
AES

https://youtu.be/U0N83NvSfk4

“What It Means When a Woman Says She Has a High Sex Drive”

Hi all,

Still absolutely loving Medium.  There are so many wonderfully written articles on there, I feel bombarded with choice.

As for my love of the complex construct that is human sexuality, there’s a few writers on Medium whose writing I absolutely love and which gravitates with me usually after just a couple of sentences.

This article is another one.  Yael writes about female sexual energy and how it is similar but also very different to male sexual energy.

I have experienced this many times over the years and frankly still can’t manage to find consensus with it.

“What It Means When a Woman Says She Has a High Sex Drive” by Yael Wolfe https://link.medium.com/kQA3NQ2qZ5

But “It is, what it is” and so whilst this gender difference confounds and frustrates me I am slowly getting to a point where I no longer care and as such prefer to gravitate as a mandate to some quiet time with the Fleshlight and good lube.

Anyway, please consider clicking the link and maybe subscribing to this excellent site chock full of anything and everything you have ever wanted to know more about.

I will be a Medium subscriber for sometime to come I feel.

Cheers
AES

“Why Do Men Want to Have Sex With Women?”

Hi all,

Another great Medium post for y’all.

Christine pretty much nails the confusion I feel in wanting but never finding or accessing regular healthy sex.

I read something like this many years ago. A woman was prescribed Testosterone to help her with a medical condition and not long after taking it started to feel what I and most if not all  other men feel on a daily basis.

I really wish I had kept that article and additionally would love if kids were taught this fact in school.

It might also actually help us reverse the selection she mentions that has women still striving for equality as I write this and whom are likely to be on that road for sometime to come yet.

Actually, I wouldn’t be surprised if they do this already in Iceland.  See my post “Iceland, I Love You (even more now)!” for further reading.

Anyway, I hope you have a read of Christine’s post and it helps you understand the dance we all cut a merry little jig too a little more.

Cheers
AES

“Why Do Men Want to Have Sex With Women?” by Christine Stevens https://link.medium.com/rXEwgGNnP5

https://youtu.be/qNM6IuA87eM

“The Ultimate Threesome is All in the Mind”

Hi all,

I really enjoyed this article.
It connected with me like nothing ever has in this space.

BDSM is something that doesn’t fit with my personality but maybe I need to find some consensus with it going forward?

“The Ultimate Threesome is All in the Mind” by Steve Halsall https://link.medium.com/kqsscuFwv5

Please have a read and I hope it takes you on a similar journey too.

Be thoughtful peeps and the good lovin will flow.

AES

https://youtu.be/wHuXpWSNa-8

Polygamy is about to be decriminalised in Utah. Is it good news for women?

Hi all,

About the closest I have been to polygamy is that TV show “Big Love” from the US that SBS Australia showed many years ago.


I can’t remember watching more than one series but I think I watched enough at the time to get a feel for how their particular household worked.
The adult male had three wives under one roof if I remember correctly and via a roster system, spent time with each of them equally.

I remember thinking that there was some good attributes to this sort of arrangement but I also saw enough drawbacks to make me, in an overall sense think this type of relationship wasn’t ideal.

BTW, my opinion is still completely subjective as I haven’t lived like this nor know anyone who has.

Anyway, getting back to the title of this post (via Guardian Australia) after having read the article, with a few more years under the belt and very much taking into account my poor understanding of this relationship style I think it is good thing that polygamy is finally being decriminalised.

Please read of the article (it’s a really good read) at the link as it has three different perspectives that are all interesting in their own way.

My take from reading the above is that I think decriminalisation has to be tried on for size and given time to breathe and settle so it can be fully assessed as to it’s suitability within society.

Secretly I hope it thrives as I am strongly of the opinion that one size doesn’t fit all and that’s why I look forward to watching this space with interest to see what happens next.

AES

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/05/polygamy-is-about-to-be-decriminalised-in-utah-is-it-good-news-for-women

Australian paedophiles pay as little as $15 for online abuse of children in Philippines

Hi all,

I have mentioned paedophilia in this blog once or twice over the years.

I do find it sickening, but I will forever rail against those who knee-jerk to defence mechanisms and speak only of punishments such as jail etc. blah, blah, blah.

IMHO we need (as a majority of society) to understand WHY this behaviour exists and IF there is anything that can be done proactively to identify and reduce the percentage of those who prey on the most vulnerable in our society.

Knowledge of mental health is slowly getting better and I long for the day where this subject can be discussed rationally within the spectrum of mental health with answers found to the questions that remain unanswered and which in 2020 have people reacting to this word like those whose reactions and commentary had “witches” burnt at the stake many years ago.

“Australian paedophiles pay as little as $15 for online abuse of children in Philippines”.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2019/dec/09/australian-paedophiles-pay-15-dollars-online-abuse-filipino-children

Here’s to one day finding the answers we need to make this long disgusting part of our sexuality a relic.

If you have any thoughts on this subject that can further the debate out of the quagmire it exists in, bring it.

AES

‘There’s zero evidence that it’s worse for children’: parenting in a polyamorous relationship

Hi all,

This is a really good read and it has frankly made my night.

I have seen polyamory rise up from nothing in Australia and then seemingly slowly die off as various organisations folded.

This article proves the fear mongers wrong and I hope we see a resurgence one day.

What I love most about this article is that which attracted me to polyamory all those years ago when I first turned the pages of The Ethical Slut.

Honesty.

But that is me and both you and I dear reader are very different people. We all have different views and different life experiences that make us the people we are.

‘There’s zero evidence that it’s worse for children’: parenting in a polyamorous relationship

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/01/zero-evidence-worse-for-children-parenting-in-polyamorous-relationship

Anyway, have a read and if a comment crosses your mind, you know the drill.

AES

What I learned talking to 120 women about their sex lives and desires.

Hi all,

This book looks very interesting.

Having seen and experienced this from partners over the years I am really happy that finally the puzzle pieces are falling into place.

I will pick the book up at some stage and post a full review for you.

AES

What I learned talking to 120 women about their sex lives and desires

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/feb/05/katherine-rowland-the-pleasure-gap-women-sex-lives-desire

“The Unbelievable Secret To Getting More Sex”

Hi all,

This article isn’t the magic bullet it purports to be in the byline.

But it is a bloody good read summarising so many problems into well written paragraphs that you will certainly grow a little after reading it.

“The Unbelievable Secret To Getting More Sex” by The Good Men Project https://link.medium.com/7LDqhKo382

Note: Medium is a paid site but this article and many others I have read on the site make it worth it IMHO.

Anyway, I hope you click through and take the chance on reading it.

Once more people understand how the walls are built, maybe we have enough people behind us to knock them down and move our society collectively forward?

Anyhoo,

Ciao

AES

“Polyamory Improves My Relationship With My Husband”

Hi all,

Check out this ENM/Poly read on Medium if you have some time.

Elle writes well. Looking forward to more of her thoughts on human relationships & sexuality as her inspiration strikes.

Yet another great case for moving fowards as a species with relationship options vice the tired old default of marriage in plain view with add-ons in the shadows.

Enjoy

AES

“Polyamory Improves My Relationship With My Husband” by Elle Beau https://link.medium.com/dJP6GlBX02

Victorian sex work inquiry to review outdated and ‘unfit for purpose’ laws

Thanks again to Guardian Australia for keeping my mind ticking over on subjects like this that interest me.

Hi all,

If I go back through old posts, I know there is at least one about sex-work.

I actually had a look at them earlier and they are ok but need an update and clean-up. I will get to that over the coming months.

In the interim, there is this and I am glad that an in inquiry is happening on the back of the Northern Territory seeing sense.

https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2019/nov/27/victoria-sex-work-inquiry-to-review-outdated-and-unfit-for-purpose-laws?

I am still no fan of sex-work but it is the oldest profession in the world for a reason.

Let’s see where it goes shall we. Will keep you updated as information is released.

But I will leave you with this.

I was listening to a BBC podcast yesterday on the subject of peace. It opened with chimpanzees and how their society largely mirrors ours. It then went on about Bonobo’s who are also closely related to us and it got me thinking about male & female power dynamics.

Is what we see and experience daily mostly a representation of an overbalanced patriarchal society?

And if as we progress to a more gender balanced society, will we see more peace?

And to round this out nicely, the end of prostitution.

AES

I’m 41. My boyfriend doesn’t want kids, so I’ll have them alone – without leaving him

Hi all,

Another nail in the coffin of marriage tis…

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/nov/28/parents-children-alone-boyfriend-age?

This is why I dig change, it’s inevitable.

I reckon that by the time fate comes a knocking to tap me on the shoulder, marriage may well be a shadow of its former “one size fits all” self.

As that bloke said in the Guinness commercials years ago…

“I like to watch”.

AES

p.s. thanks to Guardian Australia for giving me continual food for thought.

‘Self-partnered’ Emma Watson is right: we need more ways to be single

This.

From Brigid Delaney (totes a fan!).

via The Guardian, Australia.

https://www.theguardian.com/film/2019/nov/06/self-partnered-emma-watson-is-right-we-need-more-ways-to-be-single?

Or this.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/nov/06/consciously-uncoupled-the-joy-of-self-partnership?

Dear readers,

These articles are both, right up my alley.

Why?

They are another couple of nails in the coffin of the way things have been done without question for some time now.

I speak of the patriarchy, marriage and everything spinning around these two axis that needs a good dose of change IMHO.

“Change is inevitable, growth is optional”

John C. Maxwell

A quick recap.

It’s true that much good has come from this way of living over the past few centuries, but holding the good to account are volumes of bad with just one example (of many) being, one woman is murdered by her current or former partner every week in Australia currently. Check out more here;

https://www.ourwatch.org.au/understanding-violence/facts-and-figures

For mine, I am strongly of the opinion we have it arse about presently and whilst we humans love company and cohabitation can be a great thing, when it comes to relationships, we need options rather than a contract.

These two articles affirm to me that this is the direction we are heading and I am happy where the compass needle is currently pointing.

I will continue to write about this massive subject as I get my head around it, but until then…get scrubbin!

AES