Ah Fleshy…I love thee!

Hi all,

I rarely if ever review sex toy’s on this little blog but I going to make an exception and update an expand upon this review which I posted many, many moons ago.

In short, this toy is worth its weight in gold in my humble opinion.

My Fleshlight masturbation sleeve or what I call “my fleshy” for short is an absolute little ripper of a sexual pleasure toy.

Why you may ask?

Well, now that I have worked out what that amazing end cap does (slow-learner tis, this is my 3rd Fleshlight over a number of years), I cant get enough of the bloody thing.

The end cap controls the vaccum pressure created as you slide in and out of it or vice-versa. By turning the end cap you get more/less vaccum pressure and thus more/less suction.

And ooh mama…that’s the kicker!

Previously to this I had worked out the cleanliness & preservation of the toy which in my view is done best by running warm water through the sleeve and then leaving it to hang to drip-dry and then once dry dusting it with corn-flour and reassembling ready the next use.

Fleshlight also sell a Triclosan antibacterial wash and I need to buy some to run over and through mine to get rid of any nasties but I feel that I will only use it occasionally probably prefering sunlight and an air dry to a manufactured product all the time.

All that said, I definitely go through stages of using it. Currently I am in lust with it again. The soft feel and adjustable vaccum are absolute winners and one other hot tip…you will need to audition various lubricants (water-based only) to find what works for you and best mimics a females natural lubricant.

Above is a little pictorial history of the last 15 years or so of owning them, so its fair to say they last a while if looked after. 
Notice the lack of end caps on the first and second unit.  As I mentioned above, this was a beginners mistake that I am glad I worked out eventually.

No.2 is getting a new case soon so it will have an end cap and thus I will be in solo pleasure heaven for some time to come.

Anyway that is about it from me for this little foray into the uber-personal side of male sexuality. 

As an ending statement.  If one guy and/or his partner get something from this post and it enables them to find a little pleasure, continuity and connection without intercourse in this life then this post was worth it.

And here’s also to one day removing the massive stigma’s around our sexuality that sustains the macho views of men and feeds behaviours that are still a long way off being majority good to and for women across the board. 

Look no further than our nations capital over the first six months of this year as just one example of the change in the space of male sexuality that we desperately need IMHO! 

Men & Women are equals at birth but its what happens after that drives us apart and this needs to, and slowly is,  becoming a relic of the past thankfully.


Cheers

AES

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Thomas Brand on Polyamory (via Medium).

Hi all,

I had moved away from poly for a few reasons but then tonight I read this article by Thomas and I think I need to revisit The Ethical Slut soon for a refresh.

Back in the day I used to think polyamory was the next big thing but that time came & went (in Australia specifically) with the default in marriage staying the course as the default long-term relationship option.


Polyamory isnt dead yet though and I really hope it hangs around because I feel its time will come again as both genders methodically find solutions to problems that have and still constrain gender balance.

I see traditional marriage as big supporter of gender inequality but that said I am sure there are many great examples of marriage that show it in a better light.

Anyway, this article will provide you with a small window into the world of the polyamourous via one of the many emotional mines on the minefield of love that can stop a polyamourous relationship in its tracks. 

Compersion; is defined in the Urban Dictionary as:
A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship“.
Thomas discusses compersion and in doing so will take you in a journey about commitment, patience and empathy for your significant other.

https://link.medium.com/JWuaE93pOgb

Compersion


Anyhoo, I hope you click through (see my p.s. below first) and until next time peeps, keep living & loving like there’s no tomorrow.

Here’s a bit of QOTSA to get you in a loving mood.

I wanna make it wit chu

AES

p.s. Medium is a subscriber based site so you are going to have to cough up some cash to read the main link.

I reckon its completely worth it as Medium is chock full of brainy goodness, but that’s your call.