OK, lets get one thing straight. I have purchased and generally consumed a MASSIVE amount of porn in this lifetime. If I could put a dollar figure on it we might be looking at $20,000…maybe more?
Most of it harmless heterosexual sex between a woman and a man but occasionally I have been somewhere with other men when someone has pulled out a video of a woman shitting on a man’s chest or when I was in my Bi phase and searched Bi/gay porn to see if it might be my thing.
Then there was the time where I checked out bestiality and very quickly got over it as that shit is way fucked up.
Then we have the submissive stuff I checked out briefly but realised that it wasn’t cool to see a woman gagged, being fucked in the arse and then the pussy like she was a piece of meat. Not cool at all. I am sure there are a few women around who like that sort of stuff or want that from their man/men but I am definitely not he.
All in all though over 25 years, has it changed my attitude towards women. NO.
In fact, I would argue that it is porn that has actually educated me somewhat. How so…?
Do read on.
A little background….My attitude to women was crafted primarily by my Mum first and foremost but also by those around me whilst growing up, aunties etc who pretty much laid the stones for me to walk upon as far as dealing with women. Easy come easy go pretty much. Treat a woman how you like to be treated…civil, respectful etc.
My father then fucked this up with his aggro temper and complete lack of help in dealing with females thus when the chance came to jump ship at 17 I did and didn’t look back. Unfortunately though, by this time the damage was done and I would find it really hard to communicate with women for pretty much all of my 20’s and 30’s. It is only now at 40 that I feel semi-comfortable talking with women. Even then, sentences are clipped and I am wary of them especially after I got in sexual harassment trouble with a former employer. Long story, but in short, I was just sucked in and spat out by girls testing their sexuality and how far they could take flirtation before it got out of hand. I admitted guilt and got fired…the women…a recap of sexual harassment 101….NOW THERE’S EQUALITY FOR YA!
But really, has porn caused any harm. I would argue no because I have had plenty of opportunities to turn left on the moral crossroads instead of right or vice-versa, take on attitudes that I have seen in some porn and use them in my sex life but I have not. I have baulked at pretty much everything that has been thrown at me taking the turn as required by a decent society. Too this day I have a great deal of respect for the large majority of women and their struggle for equality, so yes…I really don’t think porn is an issue for me at least.
That is me though. There are many men, but still a tiny number in the grand scheme of things I would argue, who have made a poor decision(s) and they are the men that feed the fires of the woman mentioned below.
Melinda Tankard-Reist. Apparently all men or something like that (cant bring myself to watch shite like that again) are doomed to fall into Big-Porn’s evil plan to turn men into sex beasts who beat women and treat them poorly blah blah blah. Check it out yourself if you don’t believe me…straight out of her mouth on camera. http://t.co/EhXFNTQI
Now…whilst we are on MTR…I understand she is passionate about seeing porn reduced to dust and hey everyone is entitled to an opinion and can believe whatever they want in this wonderful country but for fuck’s sake…has she ever thought that getting her way and seeing the pendulum swing 180 degrees the other way will only bring on its own unique set of problems which may or may not leave us in a similar position?
Don’t get me wrong, I am all for the rights of women and feminism but the hard core right-wing militia methodology really is a waste of oxygen.
Here’s an idea…how about we just educate people better? FUCK ME, THAT IS BRILLIANT…WHO WOULD HAVE THUNK IT!
And here I go again…SEX EDUCATION. Lets start it with kiddies at 9 years of age. Basic shit…your body, its parts, functions…fun, laughter, learning. Then year by year lets ratchet it up a notch where at 13 boys and girls will be learning about relationships of all flavours. Again, make it fun so that kids enjoy it and look forward to a break from maths, science and other core subjects. I want to see the curricula go through until year 10 where it would cease but not before relationships were covered again so that young adults could then go forward into the world with their girlfriends/boyfriends and practice the fundamentals that they would have learnt. Safe sex, Pregnancy, Male and Female sexuality, Pornography and so many more subjects.
What a great way to learn about sexual harassment too….wish I had been able to partake in something like this. Of course, it would have to be optional to cover off those religious parental oddities who think that god is the main mofo blah blah blah!
If it was done right, I reckon it could be condensed into a few weeks possibly twice a year maybe, I don’t know? The small stuff can be argued over by the bureaucrats.
The main point is that there would need to be time for the children to discuss the subjects with their friends etc when they felt comfortable. If that was worked into timings and teachers were hand picked, vetted as one would for a government security clearance then I think we would get it done and done well.
Surely that would make a dent in the amount of fuck-up’s covered off (primarily by men) in regards to sexuality and possibly it might even out the playing field in regards to porn a little or a lot too?
This is serious shit…we need to act as a society. I have crapped on about Australians and their sexuality as I have seen it here http://tiny.cc/wk9oo and I hope that is changing with the young people coming through WITH their access to porn and a good upbringing. We cant fall any further right…the conservative attitude doesn’t work for the majority IMHO.
The church had its turn and fucked shit up leaving a lasting legacy. Porn is breaking that chain but it has the potential to fuck shit up too. WE MUST ACT, AND SOON. MTR and her little group of “odd humans” don’t need anymore fuel for their little bonfire so lets not give it to them please.
In summary, I just want us to aim for balance in regards to pornography. Yes, there are many issues but banning it or instituting knee-jerk policy isn’t going to do FUCK ALL. Just like feminism, it is going to be a gradual process, an evolution of the species where we hopefully will end up doing things better one day.
p.s. Yes, my writing can be complete crap at times, but I do make a fair point I think. Think on it and if you like, drop me a line. I have only bits of lots of puzzles/subjects on sex but want to know more…SO YOU…AUSSIE, put your digits into gear and leave a comment good or bad. Thanks and smooches. C